We proceeded and we reached a garden of deep

We proceeded and we reached a garden of deep, dense green vegetation, having all sorts of spring colours. In the midst of the garden, there was a very tall man (Ibrahim AS) …and around him were children in such a large number as I have never seen…’ 


By Him in whose hands is my life

“By Him in whose hands is my life, a child will pull its mother to Jannah if she is patient”

[Ibn Majah]


I have no better reward than Jannah

I have no better reward than Jannah for a believing servant of Mine who is patient and resigned when I take away one of his beloved, one he cherished most in this world



On the Death of Ibrahim SAW

Ibrahim was in his last breaths and the eyes of Allah’s Messenger started shedding tears.

Abdur Rahman bin ‘Auf said, “O Allah’s Messenger (SAW), even you are weeping!”

He (SAW) said, “O Ibn ‘Auf, this is mercy”. Then he (SAW) wept more and said, The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our Lord. O Ibrahim! Indeed, we are grieved by your separation”.



The child was lifted

The child was lifted up to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) while his breath was disturbed in his chest. On seeing that, the eyes of the Prophet (SAW) streamed with tears.

Sa’d bin ‘Ubadah said “O Messenger of Allah! What is this?”

He (SAW) replied, It is compassion which Allah has placed in the hearts of His slaves, Allah is compassionate only to those among His slaves who are compassionate (to others)”



No fatigue

No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, except that Allah expiates some of his sins for it.




“Surely we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return.” 
[Qur’an: Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:156]


When you lose a child, it often feels as though you are alone. This can make it feel even more difficult. What can sometimes help, is knowing that many others have also been affected.

Losing a child at an early stage is, unfortunately, common. Miscarriages often occur before a mother has even realised that she is pregnant; twenty percent of all pregnancies are miscarried, with the majority occurring in the first trimester of pregnancy. What is sometimes more difficult is if you have had recurrent miscarriages and this too, affects 1%.

Other mothers may carry their child for longer but then have a stillbirth. Eleven babies are stillborn in the UK every day; more than 30% of these stillbirths occur at term when mothers are expecting to hold a healthy baby. The reasons leading to miscarriages and stillbirths are not always known.

In addition to the above, six babies die every day in the UK, in the first few precious weeks of their lives. Older children are lost too, through accidents, conditions that they are born with and cancers too.

Each child is different and each loss is different, but all are equally treasured. The Muslim Bereavement Support Service understands that these children are not forgotten and the loss may sometimes feel no less, many years on.

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